Thursday, March 11, 2010

Recipe for Survival (Part III) Friendship

I hope this won't sound trite. But I figure since the Oscars just happened that I would have a great excuse to do this. It feels like I'm writing my acceptance speech. But it's my blog and I can write what I want, right? So in this blog I want to write about my friends. You have heard me mention my friends in all my other blogs, but I really want to stress in this blog how great they really are.

I feel that the people you surround yourself with are nothing less than reflections of who you really are. I would love to think I am as wonderful as my friends are. They are all unique, successful, wise, smart, and sexy to say the least. If I'm half of that, I'm doing pretty well! These friends also teach me things. I have learned many things about myself through the long nights on the phone, the girls nights, the dinner parties, you name it. We are a pretty roudy bunch when you get us all together and when we leave each other's company, we've left with something to think about.

It's amazing how some go through life and not see people like the ones I've picked up. I have learned throughout the years to keep my eyes peeled for people I think can help me accomplish my goals. I usually see a little of me in all my friends. And I'm sure you do too. If you look around and all your friends are negative, sour, angry, or just downright unpleasant; these are, or will become attributes of you. Be careful who you surround yourself with. This can be a major monkey wrench if you're trying to be successful. You need people who will lift you up and support you, not bring you down. And take note, that you must be there when they need you.

Being a good friend is just as important as having one. Friendships like all other relationships are give and take. Depending on the issue it may be your turn to either give or take. Beware the friends that only take; they can be draining! If that's the case create a little distance. Distance can sometimes be healthy for a relationship. If you are a good friend you know, because your friends tell you. I work to be a good friend, this is a relationship like all you encounter. And working is just part of the plan.

You need to have key people you can count on when things get tough. Your friends will help uplift you when bad times come. I've really got a great support system, because there are times I forget it's "bad times." Get your support system. Don't push people down and not help them because you feel threatened. Take the time to look into the unknown, and who knows what you may find. Surround yourself with people you want to be like.

Keep Going,



Laura Thomas said...

Well said Amie and right on!! Hugs, Laura

LA said...

Great blog Amie and you are much more than half the things you mentioned. :)
This reminded me (as many things do) a Kahil Gibran poem, On Friendship, "Your friend is your needs answered." It goes on to also say "And let your best be for your friend. If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also."
There was a time in my life when I was surrounded by people I thought were friends but now realize many weren't even good people, much less good friends. Though I certainly blame no one else for my own short comings, the people around you do influence your life and I sure did pick some takers there for awhile. Now I try to look at all my relationships like silent movies. Yeah, it would be great to hear what they are saying but you can really tell what's going on by what they do. The friends I have now are better. Better people, better friends, better all around. I am so thankful for their friendship and try my best to be a good friend in return. When I count my blessings, that you are my friend gets counted "hella" times! Love you!